What’s the Need Behind the Feeling?

When we experience emotions such as anger, pain or stress it can be a signal that our emotional needs are not being met. For example, if you’re talking to your partner and you start to feel angry with them because you think they are not listening, it could be a signal...

What to Do When All You See Are Pregnant Women

Why is it when you choose your next car you suddenly see more and more of them on the road? Why is it when you’re struggling to get pregnant all you see are pregnant women, babies and young families? I can remember during our journey times when I felt fine with...

What to do when asked if you’re going to have children

When I wrote this title I initially put ‘What to do if when asked if you’re going to have children’. I then changed it to what to do when someone asks because I’m pretty sure it is inevitable that someone will ask at some point if you are of the age when many of...

How to let go of negative thinking

Many of my clients want to know how they can stop their negative thinking around their fertility such as telling themselves they are never going to get pregnant or this round of IVF isn’t going to work. I often ask them if I offered them a magic pill that meant they...

Hope v Acceptance

Hope. What is hope? Is it a good thing? Surely having hope is a good thing. Hope helps you stay positive, doesn’t it? Hope keeps away despair and fear, doesn’t it? Hope is thinking, thinking about the future. And nothing can predict the future, not even...

Break up That Party of Thought in Your Head

One of the things our thinking does is to try and prepare us for disappointment. Thinking about the worse case scenario so we can prepare ourselves or not get our hopes up too much, so we don’t feel too disappointed if things don’t work out. I didn’t want to believe...